So, I tried my hand at a sex column. Let me know what you think in the comments!
Dear Mish, I have been struggling to get wet when I have sex with my partner, and I’m too embarrassed to talk to him about it. I end up not enjoying myself and it hurts. What do I do? – High and Dry
Dear High and Dry,
First things first: you’re not alone. I don’t know any vagina-bodied person who hasn’t struggled with dry vajayjay at some point in their life. It’s painful and unless you’re into that, it makes sex no fun. And sex without pleasure or fun is hardly worth it.
Fortunately, there are simple solutions for the dry vagina conundrum. The first is foreplay. Lots and lots of foreplay.
Foreplay is exceptionally fun. And it’s not there just to get your partner hard, foreplay is especially important to wet your appetite, as well as your vagina.
Oral sex in particular is a great way to sort out a dry vag. Your partner should be ready and willing to go down on you, but some people can be weird about it.
Take a moment to sit down with your partner and discuss what you would both enjoy in the bedroom. Don’t be overly critical of their technique, and instead focus on what you would like to try or would like to feel more of. And hear them out when they tell you what they want. If you are both open-minded and honest, this convo will be an awesome prelude to that foreplay I mentioned.
The best sex is when you find yourself walking like a cowboy who’s been riding into the sunset too long. The best sex is when you and your partner both have a ridiculous amount of fun and enough pleasure to leave you craving more. If it’s anything less than that, then you two need to talk to one another and figure out what makes you both hot in the nethers.
If you still find yourself high and dry, feel free to write me again.