Tag: Sexual abuse
Found guilty of sexual assault on daughter but teaching school kids. By ZISANDA NKONKOBE A teacher, who was convicted of sexually abusing his then 15-year-old daughter last year, is back teaching children at an Eastern Cape school. This has infuriated parents who want the man to be dismissed from the school. In court papers, which the… Read More ›
The year was 1994 when i was doing my Grade 1 before that i was staying with my GrandMa but that year i had to move in with my Mom (who is disabled) and My Stepdad. My Stepdad was an abusive man towards my mom especially when he is drunk. so we stayed in a 1 room shack.
I was 15 when I had my first boyfriend.
I didn’t report my rape because I didn’t say no and I thought that made it my fault. I thought no one would believe that I said no with my body when I froze and couldn’t speak. I also didn’t think people would believe I let me boyfriend of over a year rape me because “rape doesn’t happen in relationships”, right?
I wasn’t raped. He only fondled my private parts. Nothing thing to see here. Nothing to report. Only a fondle. Several on different occasions over the span of a year or so, actually. But it was nothing too invasive, or violent. Nothing too serious, right? So it felt ridiculous to make a big deal about it.
I knew I would be judged, I knew I would be blamed, I knew I would be ridiculed and called a liar and I never would have spoken out had it not been for my suicide attempt.
Again, another comment I made on @ivovegter’s column that I wanted to cross post here. This is a discussion about my activism and the shape it takes. I often get snipes from people that I only do “online activism” or “slacktivism” – a completely baseless claim. I think it’s premised on the fact that I am a very outspoken netizen and always online, but it’s fallacious none the less. So here’s what my activism is.
Some incredible photos of me while at the Silent Protest. All these pics were taken by the extraordinarily talented Adrian Frost. Read his post on the SP and see more of his pics here.
The City Press reports on the 2012 Silent Protest, for which I was media liaison. Check out an interview with me about why we protest.
There are times when silence is more eloquent and expressive than shouts of protest, or words spoken in the face of ignorance. The Silent Protest seeks to embody this silence in solidarity with rape survivors who, for whatever reason, are not able to speak out about the violence exerted on them and their bodies. The Silent Protest also serves to make a space for those survivors who know and have experienced the deep vault of secrecy to come forward in a safe space, and make their voices heard. On this day, these survivors who feel they are able to come forward wear a T-shirt identifying themselves as a “Rape Survivor”.
There are different reports for the numbers of rape survivors who don’t report their rape for fear of reprisal. Some say 1 in 4, 1 in 9, 1 in 20. The statistic most frequently used by the South African Police Services to calculate the number of survivors who report their assault (in relation to those that don’t) is 1 in 35.